Letter to a former friend

The names have stripped. I wrote this because I need closure. Nothing else.

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Hi *****,

It took me a long time to decide to write this letter, and I don’t even know if you will read it, or just delete it. That’s up to you, but I feel as though I need to do this.

I am upset at you. Very upset. But I have decided instead of just sitting on it and waiting to confront you in person, which seems like it just won’t happen anymore, I need to say it.

It’s been since May since I have seen you, or spoken to you on the phone. I know it’s May because that’s when you took my laptop, and I was on the California Project. I don’t know what happened, why this friendship went south, but it did, and it’s upsetting to me.

I consider myself to be a reasonable, honest, trusting person. When it comes to you however, that trust has been betrayed on multiple levels. Some of the things I have noticed, are as follows:

1. You told me your mother has passed away. I remember this very clearly. You told me about the funeral and everything. That’s how you came to own everything, how you were left everything and your brother was left 1 dollar. You told me how everything changed.

I later find out, through a mistake from one of your friends, who will remain nameless, that your mother is infact alive. Why would you lie about something like that? To me or anyone else? That’s crazy and there was no reason for a lie of that magnitude.

2. My Laptop has been in your possession for roughly 4 months now. It was in complete working order when you received it. I even threw in a printer. It was $500, to try it out, and either give it back, or get me the money. Which you promised to do in a couple weeks. But since receiving the laptop, ALL communications with you, aside from an occasional VERY short email through myspace here and there, have stopped. I am assuming you have no intention of getting the laptop or the money back to me. I don’t know what to say about that, but… I hope that is not the case.

3. When I was making the peaches, and all of my friends did not show up to help, and you showed up that day, as I was finishing everything, you bragged about how you showed up and no-one else did. That was cool, but all other times you swore you would show up, for my brunch, for a day during the weekend, and numerous other occasions, you did not bother. I spent days waiting for you and not a phone call, not an email, not an IM. That took that one good day, and ruined it all, several times over. I don’t understand the reasoning, after confirming you were coming, (adamantly) you would stand me up like that. That’s not being a friend.

4. I have offered several times to come to your place. It’s difficult for me, but I have been thinking, why not… you come here often enough, so it’s only correct for me to do the same. However, when I mentioned this to you, and why you don’t invite me over, you mentioned there is too much drama at your house that you don’t want to subject me to.

This, to me, is a bullshit answer and seems like you are either trying to hide something, or something else is going on that you just aren’t proud of. Either way, I am (or at least was) your friend, and I have demonstrated on multiple occasions that you could trust me, after all of the advice you asked for. What is so terrible that you couldn’t invite me over?

5. I had tried to set a friend of mine that you happened to know with a job. **** and I were talking for quite some time. I am not sure what happened, but shortly thereafter, he broke off our friendship, stating that there were rumors going around Carrollton that he was having an affair with me. I don’t know how such a rumor started, but I know of only 3 people who live in your area, you, *******, and ****. ****, as far as I know, would have no reason to start such a rumor, as we have not met, and no plans to be sexual were going to take place. I respected his wishes so he can keep his relationship up with his boyfriend… but… it hurt me to see that happen, and the only thing I could rationalize is you starting that rumor.

I come to that conclusion because of all the things you have been saying about my good friend ****’s boyfriend. I don’t know if any of that is true, but my friend mike could not be happier and it seems like everything you said was just fabricated, and the fact that you pushed the issue every time I talked to you for a while, despite me saying, it’s not my business and I was not interested.

There are more reasons I could list, but I am afraid I have no more interest in bringing up other details. I have overlooked these things because, well, I thought you were my friend. Now you say you are sick, and just don’t want to be bothered with anything. Well… I understand that, but it’s been 4 months since I have received a phone call from you despite MULTIPLE emails, voicemails, and text messages left. That does send a message to me that you are no longer interested in being friends. I keep trying because I thought you were my friend and I don’t give up on friends easily, despite some of my other friends’ better judgment.

So… enough games… I have come clean and expect you to do the same. I leave it to you to make the next move. If any… I am just upset, and at the present time, with all the personal drama going on in my life, I just have no more energy to shout into the wind. The only thing I expect, is that I retrieve my property, which is the laptop and printer, or the money for said items. You don’t even have to see me, just drop whatever off at the front desk and I will get it from there. You mention all of the crime done to you in your business with people stealing things. I hope you will not commit the same act.

As far as writing back or maintaining the friendship. I leave that up to you, but I will say one thing, actions speak louder than words. Writing a 2 line letter will not cut it anymore to continue being friends. Despite what my other friends would say, I just don’t give up on people. So I will give you the chance to redeem yourself, if you even want to. If not, simply reply “no thanks” or “fuck off” or something to that effect, and I will get the hint, erase your numbers from my phone, remove your names from my IM lists, and remove you from my friend lists everywhere and that will be that. The choice is yours. Either way… the only thing I ask, is that you be honest.

-O